How to become less Wedding stressed in 6 easy steps
TIPS FROM ESSEX Wedding Planner
There are so many elements to overcome whilst planning a wedding and it’s meant to be one of the happiest times of your life, so why do you feel so stressed?!
I know fun and stress don’t usually go together but… I had so much fun talking about this subject. Make sure you catch up on my YouTube channel to find out how to become less wedding stressed HERE in just over 30 minutes!
If you don’t have time to watch or you just can’t stand my voice/face, here’s a real quick overview of the points!
There’s so much pressure from everyone about this being the most perfect day. It is, but there will also be many other ‘perfect days’. We put ourselves under a lot of stress and pressure (by the way, found a new name for this following a tongue tie… streshure - good right?!) and whether we accept that we feel that way is a different thing.
So, here’s how to avoid it.
1) Take a step back - easier said than done I know. Recently, I felt I was juggling a lot of plates having taken on a full time job during lockdown as well as running my own business, family, friends, course work, I was struggling. So take a bath, meditate, read, chill, whatever you need to do to relax.
2) Reassess - think about WHAT is stressing you out, what is causing these issues to escalate and become the catapult for making you feel that way. This is a journey you are taking, it’s a long ride so no wonder it can be tiresome. Fall back in love with your Wedding Planning.
3) Organise & Prioritise - If you are feeling like you are not organised, paperwork everywhere, everything out of date, this could be one of the catapults as to why you are feeling stressed. I have a budget planner you can request from me and it’s FREE! Prioritise everything, have a look at what you have and have not organised, there is a tendency to prioritise the ‘nice’ things to do. Treat it as a job and make sure you schedule in time to concentrate on planning for your wedding.
4) Set expectations - this is for you and others. Many couples make decisions based on peer pressure and this can come from outside sources, friends or family members? Whilst it may not be intentional, others have a vision on how they believe your wedding should look/be. By setting your own expectations, you will find it easier to manage other people.
5) Communicate - communication is key! If you are marrying someone who never gets involved with the planning (throughout the relationship), you have to have a level of acceptance of this. They won’t suddenly start planning when they are just not that way inclined. Sit down with your partner and have that discussion, set your expectations of each other. Have a plan of action and set out who is doing what.
5.1) (sorry, I snuck one in) - Do not argue. It’s not worth it.
6) Learn to say no - this happens a lot where you feel like you' can’t say no. I have an example, Mother in Law wanted to pay for the wedding cake, Bride and Groom helped choose the cake but the Mother In Law didn’t follow through and order the right colour. Turns out the Bride wasn’t happy about the MIL helping in the first place! So, learn to say no.
If you still want to talk, message me. I love to talk and apparently, I give really good advice!
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