Should I invite children to our Wedding?
It’s one of the hardest decisions you’ll make for your wedding so is it selfish to not invite your friends children?
There's nothing like a child's smile at a Wedding. The excitement, new surroundings, new friends to make, lots of running around... So why is it always such a controversial subject about whether or not you should invite your friends children to your special day?
I have experienced many different weddings, some with children in attendance, some without. Now in my experience, regardless on how well behaved a child is, the excitement is almost too much and I've sat through many ceremonies and speeches where the children have screamed the house down. So whilst you’re trying to exchange vows or give that well prepared speech, queue the parents ‘quietly’ rushing outside with their child to try and calm them down. Does it always work? No. Does the parent feel embarrassed? Sometimes. Do the happy couple mind? Er… sometimes actually yes.
If, as a guest, a couple invite you and your child/ren to the wedding, of course they have to expect the potential noise and excitement that child may have... They are children after all! Most parents do not mind being disturbed whilst eating, it’s expected as a parent right? But I’m sure most parents won’t turn down the opportunity to eat a nice expensive meal, in peace, accompanied with a few glasses of wine! (I feel I’m allowed to say this as I have two step kids so know whilst it’s our ‘job’ to look after our little ones, but I also appreciate a good meal in adult company every now and again)
If, as a couple, you are unsure whether to invite your friends children to your wedding, you need to consider a few very important things which may help you decide...
1) Can you afford it?
2) Do you WANT children at your wedding?
3) Are you prepared to provide entertainment for them? (they will get bored without this I'm afraid)
4) There is the potential to upset the parents if you don't invite their children (now I'm not saying that's a reason to add extra little feet to your day... But... It's something to take into consideration that you could upset a few people)
5) Actually, would the parents appreciate a day out of the house, just the two of them?
The best weddings I have managed is where the couple have arranged for childminders with entertainment to be in attendance. They will look after the little ones during key moments (like the ones they don't really understand or appreciate) like the ceremony and speeches but they are still such a big part of the day and everyone is happy!
I spoke to the wonderful Heidi & Denise from Wild Play and they had this invaluable advice about their services:
“Wedding days are just so special and it’s important for the Bride and Groom to know that all of their guests can relax and enjoy the occasion. However, keeping little ones occupied can be a challenge!
For people bringing small children this can be a worry; trying to enjoy grown up time with friends and family, whilst also keeping an eye on where their children are and what they are getting up to!
Here at Wild Play Ltd, we’re able to help.
We provide a bespoke service for couples wanting to include families on their special day. Whilst arrival drinks are being served and photographs are being taken, or even during the ceremony, we can keep children busy and entertained with a range of craft activities.
Heidi & Denise are both teachers, each with over 20 years’ experience. Heidi was also a Headteacher for 13 years. We established Wild Play Ltd in 2018 and are now a multi award winning company. We have full DBS checks, outdoor first aid and safeguarding training.
Our set up is child friendly and can be themed to tie-in with the style of the wedding...or you can go for something completely different! We work with our couples to provide exactly what they are looking for.
Our crafts are age appropriate, engaging and children take home everything that they have created.”
So there you have it, if you’re torn on deciding what to do, speak to your local childcare company or Heidi & Denise at Wild Play if you’re in the Suffolk/Essex area. Have a great wedding day (with or without children)!
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